You're putting his emotional well-being over the people he might have hurt- if that's not coddling, I don't know what is. If he didn't want a mental breakdown, maybe he shouldn't have tortured and killed Castiel's friend.

So it all goes back to the same damn thing- he wouldn't be in his position if he hadn't fucked up. He should've known the amount of bridges he was going to burn and if he kills more people because of it? Well, that's his problem. It's not on any of us. It's on him

You wanna keep him on a leash? Fine. But me and mine are not gonna sit here and grab our knees just because he feels bad about something he didn't have to do. And if you wanna kiss Michael and Lucifer's asses? Then know that both of them would be happy to throw you two to the wolves the second it suits them. Lucifer, especially, would probably love to see him go nuclear.